Condoms and Lube

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Condoms never go out of style. They’re one of the simplest, cheapest and most effective ways to protect yourself and your partners from HIV and other STIs. Add a little lube, and they can also make sex feel even better.

But real talk: not everybody wants to use condoms. Some guys find it hot to fuck without condoms. There are guys who don’t use condoms who are using PrEP and/or Doxy-PEP,  others who are currently getting treated for HIV, and some guys who are combining multiple prevention tools. Some guys have decided that regular testing and treatment for curable STIs is fine for them.

You can pick the tool that works best for you. But for more on this tried-and-true classic, keep reading!

So Many Shapes and Sizes

Condoms aren’t one-size-fits-all. You can choose:

• Slim or snug fit — if regular ones slide off
• Large size — if regular ones feel too tight
• Flared or contoured tips — for more sensation
• Textured or ribbed — for extra fun
• Ultra-thin — for a less noticeable feel

Try a few kinds and see what feels best. You deserve comfort and protection.

Lube makes sex smoother, safer, and more comfortable, especially for anal sex. There are three types:

• Water-based lube is safe with all condoms.
• Silicone lube lasts longer and works great with condoms, too.
• Oil-based lube (like lotion or Vaseline) can break condoms — don’t use it with latex!

Lube helps reduce the chance of rips and makes things feel a whole lot better. Don’t be shy with it!

Not sure how to bring up using condoms? You’re not alone. Try:

• “Do you want to grab a condom?”
• “I like to play safe so I can get into the scene.”
• “I only bareback with regular partners.”

You don’t have to explain or convince. Your boundaries are valid.
And if someone refuses to use one? That’s a red flag. You get to walk away.

How to Use a Condom (Without Killing the Mood)

1. Check the date — old condoms can break.
2. Open gently — no teeth or sharp nails.
3. Pinch the tip to leave room for cum.
4. Roll it on the hard cock — all the way down. If it’s not rolling down make sure it’s not inside out.
5. Use lube — inside and outside of the condom.
6. After sex, hold the base and pull out carefully.
7. Toss it in the trash — not the toilet.

Practice solo if you want to build confidence!

Where Can You Get Condoms and Lube?

Good news — they’re easy to find. Sexual health clinics often have them in bowls for free just like candy, as well as bars, bathhouses, and some community orgs. But you can also get them at pharmacies and drugstores, sex shops or online stores if you want privacy.

Some clinics also give out internal condoms and a variety of lubes. Don’t be afraid to ask.

Quick Q&A

Do condoms really work?
Yes! When used properly, they’re highly effective against HIV and most STIs.

Can I use two condoms at once?
Nope. That causes friction and makes them more likely to break. One is enough.

Do I have to use condoms if my partner is on PrEP or has an undetectable viral load?
It’s your choice. Those are great tools, but condoms also protect against other STIs.

Can I use lube inside the condom?
Yes! A couple drops inside can help increase sensation. Just don’t overdo it.

Condoms and lube are here to protect you and help you feel good. Practice helps, lube helps, and talking about it gets easier over time. Sex should feel good and safe, and condoms can totally be part of that.

Use the tools that feel right for your body and your boundaries. And remember: the sex you want can include safety, pleasure, and choice.