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The Sex You Want
Ever think about the kind of sex you really want — the kind that makes your heart race and leaves you grinning the next morning? For gay, bi, queer, and other cis and trans guys who have sex with guys, figuring that out can take some exploring.
That’s where The Sex You Want comes in — your go-to for real, science-based info to help you and your partners make choices that feel good for your health and your pleasure. Dive into the topics below to get started.
Communication & Consent
They often say the key to success is communication. Talking about your feelings, opening up a conversation, resolving misunderstandings and conflict, it’s all important *and* it’s not just for partnered people! Building these skills helps you make sense of your own needs and boundaries, and your relationships with family, friends, colleagues and hookups too. Let’s talk about it!
Checking In
Watching Out for Yourself: Thinking, Checking In & Speaking Up Everyone deserves sex that feels good, safe, and right for them. But sometimes things like stress, drinking, shame, or feeling…
Boundaries & Violation of Consent
Boundaries & Violation of Consent In an ideal world, everyone is respectful and practices enthusiastic consent when we engage with each other in flirtation and sex. We get to feel…
Disclosure
What Does Disclosure Mean? “Disclosing” means sharing important and sometimes sensitive personal info. That can include your HIV, herpes, or other sexual health status, whether you’re on PrEP, your gender…
Pronouns & Keeping up with Language
Pronouns are everywhere! From the top of a Grindr profile to the bottom of a professional email signature, pronoun cards are everywhere these days. But what is that all about?…
Sexual Pleasure & Wellbeing
We’ve talked a lot about the science of how to stay safe with sex, but what about how it feels? What it looks like? When it doesn’t feel good? How do you manage the expectations of what sex today is “supposed” to be like? In this section we’ll look at some of the ways that sex can get in your head, and how we can have a better relationship to it.
Topping and Bottoming
Many ways to play When it comes to anal or oral sex, everyone has their own turn-ons, turn-offs, and comfort levels. Some guys love bottoming, some prefer topping, and many…
Kink
Ever thought about spicing things up in the bedroom? Kink is part of many people’s sexual lives and you see it reflected everywhere in porn. It can mean roleplay, power…
Stigma and Shame
Stigma, Shame & Finding Acceptance In many places, it can be taboo to talk about enjoying sexual exploration, let alone anything queer. It might be difficult to access reliable information,…
Porn
A different kind of movie What’s your favourite kind of movie? Sci-fi, horror, drama, comedy? There’s a genre of film that almost everyone loves to watch, but few people like…
Connection & Relationships
Language is missing a lot of words for the things we can be to each other. There’s friendship, dating, hooking up, friends with benefits, partnership and marriage… but what does it mean when someone doesn’t fit into these neat little boxes? How do we treat the people in our lives with respect and consideration? This section looks at some of the different ways we relate to each other.
Open Relationships
More than two is nothing new! You're probably familiar with the idea of monogamy–that is, only one romantic or sexual partner for one person at a time. But throughout history,…
Cruising
From hankies to hashtags, we've always found ways to find each other. Locking eyes, making connections It may seem like another world ago now, but there was a time before…
Hooking Up and Breaking It Off Online
Fancy meeting in a place like this! Once upon a time, before the internet, guys called a newspaper or magazine to place an ad in the classified section, or leave…
Sexual Orientation and Fluidity
Baby I was born this way? There was a time in our understanding of gay, bi, lesbian and queer sexuality that many folks subscribed to the idea that a person’s…
Sex Work
It's the oldest profession. If you’ve ever heard the phrase “Sex sells,” well, they really weren’t kidding! The amount of money that moves around in the economy related to sex…
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