Myths

Let’s address four common myths about trans men, and transmasculine and non-binary people. 

Myth #1: We all only want to sleep with women

Reality: Like all people, we have different sexual preferences and orientations. For some of us, this means being attracted to each other and to cis men. Our sexuality can also change throughout our lives. For most people, exploring sexuality is an ongoing journey.

Myth #2: We’re less likely to get sexually transmitted infections (STIs). 

Reality: Anyone who is sexually active can come into contact with and acquire a sexually transmitted infection. Staying safe means knowing your options; like condoms, PrEP, and regular testing; no matter who you’re with.

Myth #3: We are only bottoms (especially when having sex with cis men).

Reality: This myth partly stems from the fact that people can assume we don’t have cocks. Some of us have had surgeries that allow us to penetrate our partners with our flesh cocks. We also might penetrate our lovers with strap-on cocks (not to mention our fingers, hands, tongues, and other objects!). Like all people, some of us enjoy being fucked, others like fucking, and others still like both or neither.

Myth #4: We hate, or want to change, our bodies.

Reality: We have varying relationships with our bodies, just like everyone else. Some of us choose to affirm our gender by taking testosterone (T) and/or getting one or more surgeries, and some of us don’t. Either way, our bodies are beautiful and deserve respect.

Like all people, we have varying sexual desires and different ways of relating to our bodies!