Telling Others About You

It can feel scary to share parts of ourselves, like being trans or having a disability. But talking openly can help you get the support you need.

Tips from Our Community

• Choose a safe or public place where you can leave if you need to.
  
• Bring up similar topics first to see how someone feels.
  
• Be ready to explain words some people might not know. But you do not have to become someone’s teacher.
  

Note: In some cases, Canadian law says you must disclose to a partner if you have HIV.  More at HALCO and HIV and the Law.

Taking Care of Yourself

When you share something personal, you might face rejection or even hate. Here’s how to stay strong:

• Practice forgiving yourself. How someone else acts is not your fault.
  
• Try not to take hurtful words or actions into your heart.
  
• Learn your rights. Knowing the rules gives you power.
  
• Spend time with friends who get you and care about you.
  

Talking with Health Care Providers

Finding doctors or clinics that respect your gender can be hard. You might not feel okay telling them you are trans. And even when you do say it, some providers may not know about your healthcare needs. Ask your contacts or organizations for  providers who are trans inclusive. For some tips check out, Finding and Building a Therapeutic Relationship with your Healthcare Provider.