From hankies to hashtags, we’ve always found ways to find each other. Locking eyes, making connections It may seem like another world ago now, but there was a time before smartphone apps and internet access made connecting to other guys for sex as accessible as it is today. How did we do it back then?Continue reading “Cruising”
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Sex Work
It’s the oldest profession. If you’ve ever heard the phrase “Sex sells,” well, they really weren’t kidding! The amount of money that moves around in the economy related to sex work is enough to make someone’s head spin. What does sex work look like? Some common kinds of sex work include (but are not limitedContinue reading “Sex Work”
Sexual Orientation and Fluidity
Baby I was born this way? There was a time in our understanding of gay, bi, lesbian and queer sexuality that many folks subscribed to the idea that a person’s sexual orientation was determined more by nature than by nurture. What does that mean? Well, instead of the old archaic idea that homosexuality was causedContinue reading “Sexual Orientation and Fluidity”
Hooking Up and Breaking It Off Online
Fancy meeting in a place like this! Once upon a time, before the internet, guys called a newspaper or magazine to place an ad in the classified section, or leave a message in their voicemail inbox so they could meet up with each other. But now it’s as easy as taking a selfie on yourContinue reading “Hooking Up and Breaking It Off Online”
Open Relationships
More than two is nothing new! You’re probably familiar with the idea of monogamy–that is, only one romantic or sexual partner for one person at a time. But throughout history, gay, bisexual and queer people have made space for sex as a way of connecting to people. That includes hookups and friendships, but also evenContinue reading “Open Relationships”
Porn
A different kind of movie What’s your favourite kind of movie? Sci-fi, horror, drama, comedy? There’s a genre of film that almost everyone loves to watch, but few people like to admit, and that’s porn! What is porn anyway? Porn is a kind of media (like photography, film, streaming video, or even good old-fashioned literature).Continue reading “Porn”
Stigma and Shame
Stigma, Shame & Finding Acceptance In many places, it can be taboo to talk about enjoying sexual exploration, let alone anything queer. It might be difficult to access reliable information, or to connect with other people in a safe way. Shame can make it hard to be honest about the sex we’re having and theContinue reading “Stigma and Shame”
Kink
Ever thought about spicing things up in the bedroom? Kink is part of many people’s sexual lives and you see it reflected everywhere in porn. It can mean roleplay, power exchange, fetishes, or trying scenes and dynamics that go beyond “vanilla” sex. What Counts as Kinky? The answer to that joke is: “Whatever I’m notContinue reading “Kink”
Topping and Bottoming
Many ways to play When it comes to anal or oral sex, everyone has their own turn-ons, turn-offs, and comfort levels. Some guys love bottoming, some prefer topping, and many enjoy switching between roles. Others stick to oral or other kinds of play. There’s no “right” way to have sex — what matters is thatContinue reading “Topping and Bottoming”
Pronouns & Keeping up with Language
Pronouns are everywhere! From the top of a Grindr profile to the bottom of a professional email signature, pronoun cards are everywhere these days. But what is that all about? People are identifying their pronouns (like he/him, she/her, they/them, ze/xir, and lots more, in various different combinations) to show how they’d like to be referredContinue reading “Pronouns & Keeping up with Language”